Life’s Too Short to stay Angry at People but.. Face it, You really want to Thanos Snap them away.

You just CAN’T get over what that person’s done to you.

• Insensitive comments on your mispronunciations, mismatched dressings, poor administrative skills etc are a must have in everyday conversations with family and friends
• In the span of an hour, she’s able to list out 22 of your flaws, and had she not held back her tongue, it could have increased to 100.
• She tells you to speak your mind so he can help you process your feelings, but the moment you do, she starts reprimanding you.
• She tells you off for being selfish, yet spends the next hour or so telling you all about how she’s hurt by you
• She (literally) cooks up a storm every two days and relentlessly offers you three course dinners but gets upset when you don’t offer to wash up
• Sarcastic remarks about your progress when you’re trying really hard to match her expectations
• Sends you photos of your wrongdoings (e.g. unwashed dishes) and reminds you that you ALWAYS do that and will never change

ARGH. It ticks you off!!

It is so easy to list down all the things a person does to make you angry. You can complain to a third party about this person all day long. Every little thing say, a pack of cards, reminds you of that terrible incident and her idiosyncrasies and argh, you go into rage mode again.

Yeah, that person probably has ego and anger issues. But who doesn’t? We’re all human. We’re all flawed. We do irrational things at times.

And logically speaking, what causes relationships to break?

Mismatched expectations..? Poor communication skills..? Plenty of reasons! I’m no expert on relationships but I’ve come to learn that

Sometimes, the greatest critic in your life is your greatest cheerleader.

Don’t let the anger stir and brew into unforgiveness. IT WILL EAT YOU UP ALIVE. You lose your sense of joy. You’ll start getting angry over the littlest of things. People will start to label you as the ‘complainer’, ‘the critical and negative person’ and pull themselves away from you. You’ll end up all alone. Is it really worth it?

No wonder Paul tells us in Ephesians not to let the sun go down on your anger.

So, do you really want to Thanos Snap this person away?

One thing that has helped me every single time is to

• Talk a trusted and mature person about this. Don’t be ashamed to share your true thoughts and feelings, but be ready for a ‘in your face’ reality check of the actual situation. Ask that person to walk through this process of reconciliation.
• Grab a piece of paper, draw a line to create two columns and jot down the rational and irrational things that person has done to you.
• Process the rational advice given, and work out action steps to reach that goal. After all, we’re all made to the best version of ourselves, aren’t we?
• Have that difficult conversation with that person about the irrational comments. If needed, have a more mature and respected person present to provide an unbiased opinion and resolve anymore underlying issues.
• Overlook their flaws, again and again and again and again.

Life’s just too short to be angry at people. Love your spouse. Love your Parents. Love your Siblings. Love your Friends. Love your Co-workers. Surely, no relationship is impossible to salvage.

Live life to the fullest :)

The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory is to overlook a transgression. – Proverbs 19:11